Jealousy is a disease

I am by no means perfect… shocking, right??? (I kid, I kid) 

Well! Swiftly moving on, I would like to give my two cents on what I believe to be the most detrimental thing to relationships, whether romantic or friendly. Drum roll, please….. That is being a jealous b*tch!! I know, I know this is easier said than done, but trust me when I say I know from experience. In high school, I spent almost every day obsessing and feeling distasteful towards other individuals who had something I wanted. Whether that be in appearance, skill, or simply just deeming them a threat to one of my relationships. However, after a few hiccups, I was the one to blame. Others are only a threat to my relationships if I let them be. Over time, I found that one of the most universally appealing traits that one can hold is the ability to just not give a fuck about anyone but themselves and their loved ones. Being green with envy doesn’t sound cute at all, so I’d encourage avoiding it. 

I associate the feeling of jealousy with ones similar to suspicion, rage, fear, and humiliation. It is kind of like a horrid stomach ache that one would get after eating gas station sushi, like, please god no. 

Methods that I use to dial back these emotions is identifying my insecurities towards the subject. Now hang in with me here, I know this sounds a little dark, but typically when I do so, I find that these things are usually so irrational. Typically this is a result of me allowing myself and outside forces to get inside my head. Additionally, I think of how my actions may come off to others: rude, unfriendly, hateful, etc. I know that I would be absolutely mortified if these were adjectives that others would use to describe me, so the combination of these tricks almost always snaps me out of it. 

Finally, go easy on yourself if you slip up every once in a while. A huge accomplishment one can make is overcoming this ugly emotion :) It is truly impressive.

“Comparison is the thief of Joy.”