So Why The F*ck Aren’t We Actually Talking

College has completely restructured the way I converse with others, and boy, am I grateful for that. In college, you are not a kid anymore. No one is going to hold your hand and tell you what to say. And it is going to be hard, very hard. You are not going to win all the time, and you will end up compromising more often than not. As a communication major, I am always looking for words, ah yes, those lovely descriptors. However, I have learned that it is not always what you say that makes or breaks a conversation, but what you don’t. Not quite following me? Essentially, what I am trying to say here is just listen. 

Another absolute conversation no-no that commonly occurs is the habit of talking to everyone but the other party about the issue. And well, honey, that is so high school. Whenever I catch myself doing this, I ask myself, “so… why the f*ck aren’t we talking.” This question right here is more than enough to humble me because the answer is typically this: I am scared. 

Ok, well…scared of what? Fixing the problem? Having a mature adult conversation? 

Yikes.

I have seen the inability to effectively communicate absolutely ruin people and relationships. But inevitably, what I have learned is the longer the conversation is postponed, the worse the issue will become.

Unfortunately, life is not always rainbows and butterflies. Life is hard and having tough conversations is a part of growing up.

With that being said, if you are having a hard time working up the courage to have a conversation with someone, take a step back and ask yourself, “why the f*ck aren’t we actually talking.”